Are you looking to Change something in Your Life? Perhaps you’re looking to make changes but are finding it hard to make any type of move towards it. Most of us have something we want to change about our life. We’re human and to be human means we want to strive for more, better or even just different ways of living our life.
Often, the number one reason for not reaching your goal is lack of motivation. Some people say that it’s a lack of effort as opposed to a lack of motivation. For me, when I’ve wanted to change something, it was mostly lack of motivation that got in the way. I felt overwhelmed, assumed that it was going to be too hard or I wasn’t sure how badly I wanted it. I’m guilty of the behaviours listed below, but I have also learned to be easier on myself and found that the change happened more quickly and with less effort when I treated myself kindly.
Take a few moments and see where you might relate and what you can do to switch things up and be nicer to yourself.
1. In order to make effective change in your life you need to have a good reason to do so. Some people would call it the “why”.
Having a goal is wonderful but the reason you have to reach that goal is probably more important.
Let’s say you want to change your job; what is the reason behind changing your job? The why? It could be as simple as wanting more money, or needing to move to a new location due to family situations or it could be that you’re looking for opportunities your current job can’t offer.
Once you’ve become clearer on the why, you’ll find more motivation to start taking steps towards your goal.
2. Don’t overwhelm yourself by setting too large of a goal right out of the gate.
Weight loss is a good example. If you need to lose 70 pounds and that feels overwhelming, make it easier and break it down to smaller segments. The journey here counts; if you just push yourself far beyond your personal limits, it gives you more ammo to quit. We all lead busy lives so go above your norm but not so far that it makes you feel you can’t do it.
Maybe you can start with smaller goals of 7 pounds per month. (You can even break it down further and set a goal of losing 10 lbs in total). It will be easier for you to stay on track because it’s more manageable and you’ll have the added good feeling of your accomplishment which can go a long way in motivating you to do more. If it feels easy peasy to do 7 lbs per month, up your first goal to 9 – just squeeze a little past “easy”.
When you meet this goal then just re-set another month of 7 lbs (or another 10 lbs total) and then just keep on going until you’ve reached your personal healthy weight – the one that makes you feel good.
If you are struggling or you end up losing less than your goal, don’t give up, just re-focus and set your next monthly goal at 5 pounds or your total goal to 8 lbs. The idea is to keep it attainable to where you are now, where you can relate and know it’s possible for you. That will keep you more motivated than struggling to reach the full 70 lbs all at once and feeling defeated when it doesn’t happen. The idea is to be compassionate with yourself; when this happens it’s a strong possibility that you will then make larger goals for yourself and reach them with less effort.
3. Having a vision of what you want is a great way to stay motivated.
There’s a good reason why many high powered weight loss institutions or gym clubs recommend keeping track of your goals – some even require it (like tracking your exact food and water intake you have to write down if you’ve joined a weight loss clinic). This list acts as a visual motivator to keep you on track.
There are many different ways to keep your vision in front of you. Whatever your goal, create something that helps you see the results you want. You can journal, blog, create a vision board, use your mind and ‘see’ your goal – anything that helps cement your end goal into your mind. When losing weight, I used to ask myself “do I want this muffin more than I want to lose weight?” That usually re-set my brain to think of my end goal.
Be sure to track your struggles as well so you can learn from them and switch gears as needed. This way you can see what you are struggling with and what you are accomplishing. If you’re under supervision for weight loss, that will be easy. However if you’re tackling your goal through your own methods, tracking your struggles helps you keep it real. No one is perfect; no one gets it done the first time, no matter what the goal is.
4. Lack of a support network is another reason why many people don’t make the effort to change their lives.
Getting the support from your trusted family and friends makes a world of difference to your goals. It’s not that you need them to do the work with you, even though that would be nice to have shared goals, but it’s important to have someone you trust in your corner. Someone who can be a witness to the work you’re putting in to reaching your goal – and they can cheer you on.
If family or friends aren’t your best option, then look for the local support groups and join in, open up to them and get support from them. It’s also possible to get a certain level of support from a blog that you trust – just make sure they are like-minded and out for your best interest.
If you put these four factors into practice you will find that you have a huge supply of both the drive and commitment to finally start making those lifestyle changes that you’ve dreamed about. I wish you the best for whatever goal you have in mind!
Love & Light, Pam